Marriage Isn’t the Answer nor the Solution

Marriage is not always the answer, nor the solution.

During tarot readings by phone, we often get questions about marriage that, quite frankly, stun us. Here are some examples:

1. I keep seeing this guy in the gym and I think he is really cute, do you think we will get married someday?

Ok, the guy is cute. Why are you even thinking about marriage when you know nothing about him? A better question would be “Will we ever go on a date?”.

Start from the beginning. Get to know the person. See if they’re relationship material. Then if you decide to get serious about this person, then ask us for a tarot reading.

So often we’re asked “Could this lead to marriage” when people first meet. It’s a very complex answer. And it’s your choice if you wish to marry someone. But theirs as well.

Please don’t ask us if you should marry someone. That is an opinion. And as psychic readers we aren’t supposed to give you our opinion. We can tell you if it would be a good marriage. But we cannot tell you who to marry. That takes away your free will.

Free will can mess up predictions

For instance, your tarot reading may show the guy at the gym will fall madly in love with you. But if you choose to call him 80 times a day, and leave flowers on his car, you’re sabotaging  it. Always remember your behavior going forward can change what the tarot cards predict. This is why Lady Rhiannon and Lady Branwyn will always let you know the course of action you need to take to meet your predictions.

2. My girlfriend has cheated on me during our entire relationship.

I have given her an ultimatum to marry me or I am leaving her. Will she marry me?

So many times we’re faced with situations such as this. The relationship is dysfunctional and completely out of control. For some reason, people believe if they MARRY the person, things are going to change.

Yes, things WILL change. For the worse in 99% of cases. What needs to be addressed first is how to deal with the cheating. Why not ask different questions?

Ask why there was cheating? Can the cheating be stopped? Will the trust be recovered? Can the relationship be a healthy relationship? Ask about marriage when that is all accomplished or there really is no point, is there?

3. My boyfriend has drug and alcohol addictions.

I love him, and want to spend the rest of my life with him. Will we ever get married? This one is also more common than you think.

Unfortunately many people believe their love can stop a person from addictive behavior. It can’t. If a person is a true addict, then nothing and no one is more important than the addiction.

If it is alcohol, and they are a full-blown alcoholic, they love alcohol more than you. Until they get their addictive behavior under control, the relationship is a recipe for disaster. Instead of that question, the real questions should be Will they overcome their addiction?

Or What can I do so I do not enable them anymore?. And How do I remain strong in the process and not let them take me down with them?

Marriage Isn't the Answer nor the Solution
Marriage Isn’t the Answer nor the Solution

4. I just met a lady on a dating app.

We have been sending text messages and talking on the phone for months. We have been talking about marriage in the future. IS this a good idea?

This is a frequently asked question now that dating apps are so popular. The thing is though, you need to meet on app but date in real life. Texts, phone conversations, and emails should not and do not replace dates.

Spend time with the person and you will know how they make you feel. See if you get along. Better questions for your tarot reading would be Does this person really want the same type of relationship I want? Or Are they conversing only with me, or are there others?. And Will distance be an issue?. Most importantly, Are they just looking for sex?

5. I am in an on/off relationship.

We’ve almost gotten married several times but he keeps breaking off our engagements. Will we ever get married?

A better way is to ask how to fix the current relationship. Ask your love psychic why your romantic interest keeps breaking your engagement. And see if there’s a way to help them overcome their issues.

Ask if there’s a way to stop the on/off cycle of your relationship. The cards will explain the best way to do it. An on/off relationship won’t change with just a ceremony and certificate of marriage. It will take work on both your parts.

If you have a dysfunctional relationship, you will have a dysfunctional marriage. And it’s that simple. There are many people we all know that had a turbulent dating situation only to wind up marrying that person.

Of course their marriage was turbulent. Why should anyone expect anything different? The problems need to be addressed BEFORE the marriage. Or it only complicates the issues and makes them more volatile.

We know so many of you out there want to be married. And we want you to be happily married. Let us guide your current relationship/marriage back on track so you can have the marriage want.

Originally posted on 09/11/2018 @ 8:01 pm