Are you too available for your unavailable guy? Do you drop everything going on in your life because he finally has time to spend with you?
THE UNAVAILABLE GUY HAS NO TIME
Do you never consider saying “NO” to someone who easily says “NO” to you? Are you consistently making time for someone who makes excuses not to see you?
Have you let those excuses slide, because, after all, he’s really busy? You may be too available for an unavailable guy.
And this guy will never be emotionally or physically available for you.
If you’re too available for someone who is either emotionally or physically unavailable, you are wasting your time on a dead end relationship.
Have you seen those internet dating commercials that always show success stories? Well that is a great marketing spin for them. They never show the greater reality however. The reality is the woman waits months, and sometimes years, for the guy to meet her in person. Much less go on another date!
HE HAS ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP
If you’re involved in an affair all your time together is what is best for him. But not for you. It will always be on his terms.
He has another life, that includes a wife or girlfriend. He will not always be available when you want him to be. Will that ever change?
Maybe, maybe not. But wouldn’t you rather know? Then you can decide the steps to take to create a better life for yourself? One that may, or may not, include him?
You may even be enabling him to stay in his marriage, or with his girlfriend, because you’re keeping him happy! If he gets all he needs from you, in this affair, then what possible reason does he have for leaving his wife?
Bottom line, if he was going to leave his wife, he would have. The fact that he’s having an affair with you, is a good indication that he probably has zero intention of ending his marriage. All this being said, there have been a small percentage of guys who have. What will be the outcome for you?
Originally posted on 09/11/2018 @ 8:01 pm